1) Handle communications through
your attorney as much as possible. Sometimes it’s best just to work
things out through your attorney. It keeps things professional and helps
you maintain some distance from the situation.
2) Resist the urge to namecall. Namecalling solves nothing and only serves
to raise tensions. Consider temporarily halting conversations if they
become too invective or angry.

3) Consider mediation. Sometimes working out as much as possible though
mediation can build a bridge of understanding. A good mediator can bring
together two sides when tensions are high. Mediation is also usually cheaper
than the litigatory route.

4) Be discreet when it comes to dating again. With conflict between you
and your ex-spouse already at an all time high, you don’t want to
do anything to aggravate the situation. Seeing your ex-spouse with a new
flame (or vice versa) will likely arouse jealousy and anger. Keep your
love life on the low for awhile by not introducing new partners to mutual
friends or hanging around spots you know your ex-spouse is likely to be
found. Resist the urge to make them jealous to minimize conflict and for
the sake of your children.

5) Be fair but assertive. You don’t want to be the one who gets
trampled on, but don’t be the one who does the trampling either.
Work for solutions that are fair for everyone. Remember that in the end
what’s fair for both husband and wife is what’s best for the
children too. By searching for a middle ground, you can stop the cycle
of anger and revenge that drives much of the conflict in family law battles
today.